STOP! Let's Look at What's Happening Here

By Mark M. Harris, University of Iowa University Counseling Service

 

Content: My point or question is

 

Assumptions: The assumptions I am making are . . .

 

Frame of Reference: This is important to me because . . .

 

Emotion: Right now I feel . . .

 

Investment: My level of investment in this is . . .

 

Action Step: My proposed action step is . . .

 

Feedback: What I want from you is . . .